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feminism slut shaming why are we not past this yet? male privilege rant
Via: Niko is Cartoons
Please stop being offended by every single thing.
Please stop advocating for social groups you do not belong to.
Please stop turning everything you see or read into “mysogyny” or “racism” or “anti-queer” or something else offensive.
Please just learn how to enjoy your life and stop trying to find the bad in everything.
And PLEASE for the love of god stop using the term “cis” as a bad thing. It’s just how some people are.
A tumblr user who just wants to enjoy myself
Oh my god, THANK YOU. This has really been irritating me lately. I haven’t really been able to put it in the right words because, yes, there are some legitimately offensive things out there and I don’t want to diminish that and say “just suck it up” because that’s not what I believe, but holy shit. I see countless posts each day of people getting offended at things that you’d really have to dig and reach for to be offended by. And the way people react is just as hateful as what they’re complaining about, so we’ve got hypocrisy piled on top of it. The negativity is really starting to wear on the rest of us. Like that whole “creamsicle” thing from a couple weeks back (the drawing of a Tumblr girl vs. a Facebook girl). Everybody went ballistic and got all defensive when it was a joke to begin with. More recently, we’ve got this photoset going around with some guy holding a sign saying something about girls not having to wear makeup to look beautiful, followed by a girl holding up a sign saying “don’t tell me what to do.” Which is fine in and of itself. It’s funny, and the original picture is pretty lame. But everyone’s reblogging it and praising it and getting pissy because the original statement was “misogynistic.” Stop stretching shit out of proportion and finding ways in which things could possibly be considered offensive and get off your high horse. Let’s just get back to posting stupid gifs and cats already.
Not that anything I just said is going to change anything, but it’s getting fucking ridiculous. Maybe I just need to get off the internet.
Uh, are you kidding me with this?
Re: Creamsicle - I’m pretty sure jokes are meant to be funny.
This? Yeah. This isn’t funny. But I’ll humor you. Let’s take a step back and look at reasons why someone, I suppose, would find it humorous. Oh, look at the Facebook girl! Haha, isn’t she such an attention whore? Look at her, acting all ‘trashy.’ But oh, isn’t the Tumblr girl wonderful? So wholesome and ‘natural’ and ‘just right!’ Har har har. Who would want to date someone like Facebook girl, amirite? Yeah. This is slut-shaming at it’s core. And I’m just freaking sick and tired of seeing women pited against each other like this. What’s the wrong way to look, and what’s the right way to look. It’s such BS. Women are freaking women. We’re all different like - like -fucking snowflakes or unicorns or some shit. It’s ok if they don’t all fit into the same slots as far as taste and personal dress is concerned.
As for this guy with the sign about not wearing make up.
Yeah, while the reaction might’ve been just a tad too harsh, let’s look at that, shall we?
Women have been conditioned since birth to believe that they have to look a certain way, dress a certain way, act a certain way. This is largely because of our (largely patriarchal) society dictating what is the acceptable code of conduct for women. And I know what you’re thinking, wait, it was a guy in that picture, holding up the sign. He’s a good guy, he just wants you to be natural and feel beautiful in your own skin, what’s so wrong with that? Yeah. First of all - Do you not realize how absolutely condescending that is? Yes, we’re so glad we have his permission, his encouragement, even, to be more natural. Whoop de doo. I really don’t blame some people as seeing it as just another way men are telling women how they should look so they can better suit their needs.
There isn’t anything wrong with make up. Just because someone wants to use it doesn’t mean they’re insecure or embarrassed about their natural looks, like this guy seems to think. If they want a little extra oomph, then they have that right.
tl:dr just because someone has different choices on how they chose to represent themselves doesn’t mean that they aren’t any less valid of a person. If they choose to get breast augmentation, synthetic tans and want to wear make up, that’s their prerogative. If it makes them feel better about their appearance, what right have we to judge?
And to the original poster: STOP telling people not to have a sense of empathy. Sure, some people might be a bit too quick on the draw on stamping someone a racist or a homophobe or a misogynist or a plain straight up bigot. But, you know - I’d rather someone be a bit too overzealous, than to have them being totally apathetic. It shows fantastic change that people are 1) actually thinking from the view points of other people 2) recognizing that this isn’t cool or fair and 3) that they have the courage to speak out against it. There has to be a little trial and error to find a good balance.